# How to handle separation from loved ones

There are many reasons why a separation can happen.

- [Wars](people-conflicts-war.md)
- [Narcissistic abuse](mind-neurodivergence-clusterb-narcissist-stages.md)
- [Cult membership](people-culture-cults.md)

## Don't blame yourself

Unless you can pinpoint what you did wrong, don't take their separation personally.

- Many times, people will choose to estrange themselves out of [fear](mind-feelings-fear.md) over what may happen otherwise.
- Other times, people can be [manipulated](people-image-distortion.md) into believing they're making the right decision.

## Do whatever you can to stay in touch

Even if it's mailing a letter, try to send information to them about how much you love them.

- They may not always receive it, but you will never know your impact until much later.

## Trust God

Get your situation sorted out with [God](religion-answers.md).

- *You* don't have connection with them, but God certainly does.

## When you are a victim of parental alienation

Since you're facing a type of injustice from your [significant other](relationships-marriage.md), you're facing multiple issues:

1. The injustice from their actions against you.
2. The injustice from their actions against your child.
3. Social effects over when others express very little sympathy.

To avoid being overwhelmed, try to take each one separately.

- You'll likely lose [friends](people-friends.md) alongside the alienation, and that's [likely a good thing](people-friends-bad.md).
- The unjust actions against your children will come later, so focus on [recovering](hardship.md) from your betrayal first and foremost.

Many times, courts can inadvertently magnify a parental alienation situation by not acting expediently.

- As much as possible, occupy your time and energy with things you *can* control.
- The system *will* move slower than you'd prefer, so expect and learn patience.